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If you look up the word "slut" in the dictionary you get a lot of ugly definitions, including: "a dirty slatternly woman", "an immoral woman", and "A woman prostitute." I don't know about you, but I don't see prostitutes walking around that often. Yet the word slut is so embedded into every day conversation.
It is sad how much society focuses on tearing each other down. Especially between girls. Why is it that women crave to see each other hurt? Why are we not supporting each other and standing by each other like we should be?
The thing is, a "slut" has no particular uniform. Someone's sex life is not defined by their choice of dress. And not only that, but someone's sex life is no one else's business! Everyone is entitled to their own personal beliefs, of course, but NO ONE has the right to judge someone else based off their own beliefs. If you are offended by someone's outfit, then maybe you need to see if there is some aspect in your own life that makes you feel that way. Every women has the right to her own body. No one should feel they have to dress a certain way to make someone else happy, and NO ONE should be made to feel guilty about what they are wearing.
I understand that everyone has their own definition and view of modesty. And modesty is a great thing! But at the same time, why are we so offended by the human body? The human body is beautiful and showing skin should not be a bad thing. We should be dressing for ourselves and in a way that makes us feel good and empowered. That being said, there is a difference between dressing in a way that empowers you and dressing in a way that makes yourself an object. For example, there is a difference between wearing a bikini to the beach and wearing a thong bikini and writing "spank me" on your back. I believe that one of the biggest problems women face is becoming objectified. And I think this could be easily avoided if women learned to dress for themselves, not for attention from men. If women being looked at as objects was not such a problem, then I don't think modest would be such an issue either.
Now, I'm terrible at writing, so I wouldn't be surprised if none of this made any sense. But basically what I'm trying to get at is that slut-shaming and body policing have become way too much of a commonplace in our society. And I am in no way ok with this.
Ladies. Please realize that there is nothing wrong with sticking up for ourselves. We should not be following society's trend of tearing each other down, we should be supporting each other.